When Life Gets Hard

Tomorrow is the first day of September.

Tomorrow also begins a new chapter of my life. A new adventure.

For the past four months, I have worked as a bridal consultant at Macy’s. Today was my last day.

For the past six years, I have been involved in a serious, long-term relationship. That relationship ended on Monday.

I am going through the phases:

grieving. crying. laughing. hugging. hoping. living.

Through it all, I am trying to remember a few very important things:

  • I am heartbroken, but I am strong.
  • Smiles are contagious, and so is laughter.
  • My mother can always make me feel better.
  • My family and friends are absolutely amazing.
  • Exercise helps A LOT.
  • Singing “I will Survive” in the shower is totally normal.
  • Keeping busy and distracted is key.
  • Time heals.

Tomorrow is the first day of one of my favorite months. My mother keeps telling me that fall represents a fresh start.

I like the sound of that.

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  1. I was wondering if something like this was going on with you, since you haven’t been around much online. I’m really sorry to hear your news. It sucks. Grieving sucks. Just when you think you’re over it and okay, it comes back in waves.

    Big hugs!

  2. Sending love and blessings your way, Rebecca. Take September by the horns. Transitions are hard but they certainly can bring beautiful new things into our lives.

  3. Big changes. I’ve been wondering what’s been going on and just waiting to see if and when you wanted to share. I’m here (so close to you) if you need an objective friend to hang out with and vent. Wishing you strength and hope with your fresh start.

  4. Ohmygosh, I recently started reading your blog and it’s clear that you have really been through enough difficult stuff to last a lifetime, so I’m here to say that you will get through it and we’re all sending you love vibes!! <3

  5. Life changes are inevitable. Your Mom is spot on, September is a great month to start anew! May each day bring you good health, happiness, a clearer sense of self and your every dream realized. Time does heal and know your journey may not always be easy, but the things you learn are a great and solid foundation for your life. All the best!

  6. I’m sorry for you and the grieving that you are experiencing right now. Changes aren’t easy, and losing things and people we care about is hard. I hope that you soon feel peace and refreshed, and are able to start anew with joy. Thoughts and prayers.

  7. Singing โ€œI will Surviveโ€ in the shower is totally normal.
    Indeed. As is “Survivor” by Destiny’s Child. I’m sorry for everything you’ve been going through. Totally get it. It will get better with time…. when people told me that at first, it annoyed me. But it really is true. Sending positive thoughts your way!

  8. I’m going through very similar things too Rebecca. I just broke up with the love of my life, I am moving to another country, finding a new house, a new job, new friends and starting life from scratch all over again. It is overwhelming. But I’d like to think that there is always hope for a better tomorrow.
    I wish you strength, courage and hope.
    All the best x

    1. Purplecat,

      I’m sorry that you are going through a hard time as well. Starting from scratch is not easy, and you’re a really brave person for doing so on your own. I agree that there is always hope for a better tomorrow. Everyone keeps telling me to take this one day at a time, and that’s really what’s been helping the most!

      Good luck with your new life. I know that both of us are going to be fine!

  9. Thank you Rebecca. That is such a good advice. Sometimes, you need to take it one breath at a time, even. I guess the shortest way out is through it, right? Hopefully it will all get easier and better in time.
    There is an article that I read recently and it really helps me when I feel down. I would like to share it with you, hoping it would help you too. http://breakupthebook.com/2010/01/26/negotiating-a-crisis/
    Hope all is better in your world.
    Wish you all the best! ๐Ÿ™‚

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