My Father Has Been Gone For 10 Years

One of the hardest things about the fact that it’s been 10 years is the fact that it’s been 10 years.

My Father Has Been Gone For 10 Years
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10 Years.

My father has been gone for 10 years.

I’ve thought about this anniversary for a while because it’s a big one. I’ve thought about this anniversary for a while yet the fact that it’s here now still seems entirely impossible to me.

There’s this common misconception that the longer it’s been since a loved one’s passing, the easier it becomes. People start to forget. They figure you must be over it by now because time heals all wounds, right?

Whenever I hear that a friend has lost a parent, I always say the same thing:

“I know this feels impossible but I promise it won't feel this impossible forever.”

But here’s the thing: just because it doesn’t feel as impossible, doesn’t mean it ever stops feeling impossible, and sometimes, on days like today, it feels more impossible than ever.